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Historically, since the Rabbinic period (post 70 CE), Jewish status was passed down by the mother. This is known as matrilineality. A child of a Jewish mother is Jewish, even if the father is not. Prior to this period, the Bible recognized patrilineal descent, whereby one’s Jewish status was determined by one’s father.

In 1983, the organized Reform Jewish Movement adopted the principal of patrilineal descent. This is a bit of a misnomer. Reform Judaism considers a child of an interfaith couple to be Jewish if one parent is Jewish and the child is raised as a Jew and receives a Jewish education and celebrates appropriate life cycle events, such as receiving a Hebrew name and becoming bar or bat mitzvah. This also assumes that the child is being raised exclusively as a Jew and not practicing another religion.

What is the Reform position on officiating at the wedding of a Jew to a non-Jew? My fiancée is not Jewish, and doesn't want to convert or give up his religion. We want a Jewish wedding, and plan to raise our children as Jews.

One of the most important steps in planning a Jewish wedding is finding a rabbi or cantor to officiate at the ceremony. When it comes to officiation at weddings between Jews and non-Jews, you will find a variety of opinions and practices. Reform Rabbis belong to the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR). The CCAR discourages its members from officiating at interfaith weddings. Many rabbis understand their ordination as authorizing them to officiate only at Jewish weddings where both members of the couple are Jewish. While the CCAR discourages it members from officiating at interfaith weddings, it does not prevent them from doing so. Ultimately, rabbis are given autonomy in such matters and each rabbi interprets Jewish tradition according to his or her own understanding. Some Reform Rabbis reach the decision, after much study that a greater good is served by officiating at interfaith weddings. Most rabbis do so with certain standards. Often they require that the couple or non-Jewish partner take an Introduction to Judaism class and commit to creating a Jewish home and raising Jewish children.

Answer By: 
Rabbi Peter J. Haas

"I understand that my Jewish faith comes by way of my mother and not my father. If this is true, why do we trace our heritage through Abraham and not Sarah? I have a Jewish mother and a Christian father. What am I?"

As you may know from watching the news, the issue of who is a Jew is a hotly debated one nowadays. There is no simple answer.

Traditionally, the definition is a double one. Your status as a Jew depended on the status of your mother: if she was Jewish you were Jewish and so on. But your tribal affiliation (Priest, Levi, Benjaminite, Judean,...) was determined by the father. Why matters evolved this way is entirely unclear. These laws as such are spelled out fully only in the time of the Mishnah (around 230 CE). It is not necessarily the case that these laws were in operation in just this way back in Biblical times, let alone the time of Abraham. The question is moot in any case since both Abraham and Sarah were "Jewish."

In 1983, the Reform Jewish Movement decided that it would accept as Jewish anybody who has one Jewish parent (i.e. mother or father) and who was raised Jewishly. This policy of "patrilineality," as it is called, is one of the points of disagreement between traditional and Reform Judaism since some people can now be considered Jewish by one movement but not the other. If the person in question is a woman, then the disputed status would presumably be carried forward into the next generation, etc.

As to your case, because your mother is Jewish, you would be considered Jewish according to halacha (Jewish law), and so by all Jews (unless you openly declared otherwise). If you consider yourself a Christian, say, and act accordingly, then you would be considered a Christian by Reform, but as a bad Jew by the Orthodox!

In the end, there is no universally agreed upon answer among Jews, and in some cases other groups have other answers entirely.

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