Rebuke, תוכחה, when done correctly, looks for an opening, a sympathetic moment or shared memory to draw upon. Before reproving the other, we first join them. Once we are allies, our words urging change might be heard.
As a rabbi, who also happens to be a woman, I am living through an unprecedented time, recognizing that I have the honor of standing on the shoulders of giants, those clergy who have paved the way for me to gain access to the rabbinate relatively easily.
As a Jewish man who understands the devastating effects of toxic masculinity, I wanted to explore what it means to create a healthy masculine culture. A few amazing Jewish women righteously illuminated me.