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What is the Reform position on clergy officiating at the wedding of a Jew to a person brought up in a different faith?

What is the Reform position on clergy officiating at the wedding of a Jew to a person brought up in a different faith?

What is the Reform position on officiating at the wedding of a Jew to a person brought up in a different faith? My fiancée is not Jewish, and doesn't want to convert at this time. We want a Jewish wedding, and plan to raise our children as Jews.

One of the most important steps in planning a Jewish wedding is finding a rabbi or cantor to officiate at the ceremony. When it comes to officiation at weddings between two people who are not both brought in the Jewish tradition, you will find a variety of opinions and practices. Reform Rabbis belong to the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR). The CCAR allows for autonomy in such matters and each rabbi interprets Jewish tradition according to his or her own understanding. Some Reform clergy reach the decision, after much study that a greater good is served by officiating at interfaith weddings. Most clergy do so with certain standards. Often they require that the couple take an Introduction to Judaism class and commit to creating a Jewish home, and if they have children, raising them in the Jewish faith.