Rabbi Sandra Cohen
Rabbi Sandra Cohen (she/her/hers) works in mental health outreach in religious communities across North America, as well as teaching rabbinic texts in a variety of contexts from her home in Denver. She can be found at rabbisandracohen.org.
Rebuke, תוכחה, when done correctly, looks for an opening, a sympathetic moment or shared memory to draw upon. Before reproving the other, we first join them. Once we are allies, our words urging change might be heard.
Feeling the presence of God, in my experience, is a hit or miss deal. It takes work and discipline, but who wants to hear that?