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Planning Your Jewish (or Jew-ish) Wedding
Selecting a date and venue, choosing your officiant, and what to expect during pre-marital meetings with your officiant.
WEDDING RITUALS
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12 Rituals You May See at a Jewish Wedding
Breaking a glass is a ritual frequently performed at Jewish weddings. Check out these other practices and customs you may see the next time you’re at a Jewish wedding.
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What's Jewish About the Jewish Wedding?
More than any other ritual, the Jewish wedding reflects the sacred flow of Jewish history, tradition, and theology.
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Parents' Blessings on Your Wedding Day
For couples, one way to express gratitude to those who raised them is to invite their parents (step-parents and grandparents, too) to offer them a blessing on their wedding day.
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How to Connect Your Wedding to Your Congregational Community
An aufruf is a blessing offered for an engaged couple during a synagogue service shortly before the wedding.
PLANNING A JEWISH WEDDING
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Checklists for Your Wedding Day
Designated helpers and a plan of action, as well as checklists, will help ensure all your preparations come together beautifully for your Jewish wedding.
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Choosing the Music for Your Jewish Wedding
Whether your dream to is to walk down the aisle to Ed Sheeran and Beyoncé’s “Perfect” duet or a classical composition, the music for your wedding day can set the tone.
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How to Create an Inclusive Jewish Wedding Ceremony
Here are 10 ways you can recognize and honor both partners’ backgrounds in your wedding ceremony and celebration.
Related Answers to Jewish Questions
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- Should we invite our officiating rabbi or cantor – along with a partner or spouse – to our wedding reception?
- Can my fiancé and I get married between Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur?
- Does my wedding ring have to be plain gold or can it be a diamond band instead?
- Who can sign our ketubah? How should we pick our witnesses?
- I was asked to be a ketubah witness at my friend’s wedding. What do I need to know?
- Can Jews Get Married on Shabbat?
- I’ve been invited to an aufruf for a friend's wedding. What is that?
Find a Congregation
Find a welcoming Reform congregation near you.
What's New
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To Life: An Israeli Wedding Story
Shira and Ron, two young industrial engineers, approached me this past March, when Israel took its first steps out of the pandemic.
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A Jerusalem Love Story
It has been almost 50 years since I met my wife Judy in Jerusalem. She came into my life like the Sabbath queen about to enter the synagogue, with everyone rising and turning toward the door to welcome her in.
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How to Mark Your Wedding Date When You’ve Had to Postpone
There is some small comfort in the fact that Jewish ritual offers many ways to mark life’s significant moments and to acknowledge the complicated mix of feelings that may accompany them. Here are some ideas to get you thinking.